“…I’m starting to realise that I don’t want certain things like I once believed I did. I guess the dreamer in me tends to get carried away at times; wishing everything could be simple, disappointed when it’s not. What is it about taking things day by day that’s so scary to most people? This fear of wasting time is becoming the main reason quality time rarely ever occurs anymore. Everybody’s so busy trying to predict the end in the beginning. Nothing gets the chance to naturally develop anymore. There is no learning curve anymore, you either get it perfect immediately (which is impossible) or you get left. Everybody’s looking for a reason to run from each other. We exit first and complain about a lack of effort later. And all the “I don’t ask for much” people confuse that for being easy to deal with. Nah, not exactly, for me, it’s less about what you ask for and more about if you’re somebody I can work with. Language is taught and love is the hardest one to learn. I can not date anyone who isn’t delivered from the dear of getting hurt. I say that because fear makes everything so predictable and mechanical, no real moments, it’s all staged. I’m all for being careful and smart, but pain is a part of life and you can’t fear having to get through it. Whole generation of wedding aisles made of thin ice. No room for mistakes or flaws…or growth. Everybody’s so busy being hurt that nobody’s being themselves.

I fear selling myself short. I fear not being open enough to enjoy something beautiful and fulfilling. I fear passing up incredible moments and not making dope memories because I’ve been so busy trying to play it safe. I fear trying to live up to everybody’s version of “right” and missing out on my own happiness. I don’t fear getting hurt because I can handle that. I’m afraid of letting the fear of being hurt kill my ability to feel and really live. You scary people are killing romance one fear/doubt at a time…

Nobody can love you perfectly, we’re human and we make mistakes by nature. But there is somebody that can love you unconditionally, somebody that can pray for you, help you, support you and genuinely care for you as consistently as you need them to…if you let them.

Stop holding back in the present just because you got hurt in the past. There’s more to life than pain, but that’s all you’ll ever know if you keep avoiding opportunities to grow. Remember: when it’s real, it won’t be perfect. But, if you’re willing to work at it and open up, it could be everything you’ve ever wanted.

So, be willing to try…or be prepared to miss out.”

-Rob Hill Snr (http://robhillsr.tumblr.com)